My adult sons are absolutely against my relationship with a man who is half my age

Annie Lane is on vacation. The following column appeared in 2021.

Dear Annie, I have been seeing this guy for almost a year now. We practically live together. To be honest, at first we were just meeting for “fun,” as he called it. But over the course of those three months, our relationship became a little more serious and now, almost a year later, we have deep feelings for each other. We both know that we love each other too. We talk about our future and plan trips together.

The problem is that two of my sons are not happy with our relationship or do not accept it. You see, there is a big age difference between my boyfriend and me. I am 52 and he is exactly half my age. For us, it is not a big deal because we connect on so many levels.

Sure, there are some things that none of us are used to, but we get over that. He also made me feel sexier and more desirable than any other man. But my two oldest sons, who are older than him, just can’t get over the age difference. My oldest son is completely against it.

I would be grateful for any advice you could give me. – In love but lost

Dear ILBL, The part of your letter that struck me the most was your statement that you and your boyfriend “both know” that you love each other. This implies that you have never actually said those words to each other.

If that’s the case, it’s time to have a conversation to define the relationship so you can make sure you’re on the same page. If it’s true love, then forget about your son’s disapproval.

Over time, as they realize how much this man means to them, they may change their minds. A family counseling session with you and your sons could support this process.

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