The importance of sex education to prevent children from becoming victims of harassment

JAKARTA: Economic pressure and lack of public awareness of sexual violence against children are considered reasons why people commit immoral acts even against their closest confidants.

In recent days, a video has shocked the public in which a woman molests a boy. Investigations have revealed that the woman in orange is R, 22 years old. He committed this indecent act against his own 4-year-old biological child.

The disgusting incident took place in his rented house in Pondok Betung district, Pondok Aren, South Tangerang. The motive is believed to be that the mother is experiencing financial difficulties.

When the video footage went viral, R turned himself in to the South Tangerang Police on Sunday (3/6/2024). To facilitate the investigation, the case of a mother obscenely abusing her biological child was transferred to Polda Metro Jaya. The case is also related to electronic transactions.

The police have named R as a suspect. He was subject to Article 45 paragraph (1) in conjunction with Article 27 paragraph (1) of Law No. 1 of 2024 on ITE Funds, as well as Article 29 in conjunction with Article 4 paragraph (1) of Law No. 44 of 2008 on Pornography or Article 88 in conjunction with Article 76 of Law No. 35 of 2015 on Child Protection.

People can’t stop thinking about R’s disgusting behavior towards his own biological child. While other mothers try to protect their children, R even takes actions that may harm the child’s psyche in the future.

What R. did to his son made the public angry. The reason is that this immoral act can affect the mental health of the victim, especially since the perpetrator is her own mother, who should be the safest place for children.

Children who experience such behavior can be traumatized for life. In fact, it is not impossible that they may see it as something natural and that it can lead to social problems in the future.

“Finally, they feel that it is normal to treat other people like this. Why? Because they have learned this since childhood. After that, it is OK, you get used to it. So it is a kind of counter-argument to a behavior that is actually wrong,” says Mira Amir, child psychologist at the children and youth ward of the Sajiva RSK Jiwa Dharmawangsa.

Meanwhile, psychologist and women and child protection expert Riza Wahyuni ​​explained that children who are abused by their biological mothers must remain separated from their children for a period of time to avoid worse incidents.

“When such conditions prevail, it is better for children and mothers to be separated so that they become children of the country. Separation must be done so that the mother is not exploited and things that are not desirable are avoided,” Riza said.

This incident started on the social networking site Facebook. The perpetrator admitted to the police that he had received a message or direct message (DM) from someone claiming to be Icha Shakila. Icha suddenly offered RRR 15 million rupees if he sent a nude photo.

Due to the economic situation, R accepted the offer and sent a nude photo of himself to Icha’s Facebook account. The offer was made on July 28, 2023.

But that’s not all: Icha’s account again asked R for a photo with a different pose. This second request was also accompanied by threats that nude photos would be distributed if R did not comply with the request.

R had refused because her husband was not at home. But Icha’s account continues to threaten R with having sex with her own child. However, the promised prize of 15 million rupees was not paid.

The case of R, who abused his biological child, has not died down. A similar incident occurred in Bekasi, where a young mother with the initials AK, 26, was arrested by Polda Metro Jaya. Just like in the case of R, AK also abused her own child because she was seduced by an offer of money from a social media account.

According to Riza, R and AK’s actions were motivated by two things, namely social and economic media.

“The use of social media affects a person’s psyche. If he is unable to do this with others, he does it with those closest to him, namely children. There are problems in the brain related to sex. Usually they are poor, they are between middle and lower class,” he said.

Mira Amir, meanwhile, explained that the suspect was determined to commit his depraved act because he was exposed to threats and fear. Fearing that his nude photos would be leaked, R was forced to sacrifice his child, who was still a toddler.

“In a threatening situation, a person is not able to solve problems effectively,” said Mila.

“Ultimately, he took a small step. He made a decision without careful consideration,” he added.

Cases of child sexual abuse are still widespread in Indonesia. According to data from the Online Information System for the Protection of Women and Children (Simphony PPA), 15,120 cases of violence against children were detected in Jakarta during the period from January to November 2023. From that date, cases of sexual violence dominated.

This incident reflects the lack of education on children’s rights and the lack of awareness of violence against children in society. In fact, it is very important to educate children about which parts of the body can and cannot be touched in order to prevent children from becoming victims of sexual violence.

Psychologist Sani Budiantini Hermawan believes that children should learn about sex education at a young age. But unfortunately, this topic is still considered taboo for some people.

“When should you teach this to children? Since he can speak. For example, no one is allowed to touch a private part of the body. If something isn’t funny, you have to tell a story,” says Sani.

“It’s not just about personal body parts that other people should not touch, but also other body parts that are protected by clothing. For example, the stomach and thighs. Make your child understand if someone touches this area and immediately inform the person he or she trusts,” he added.

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